Remember: your misery is her delight; your win is her war! Your husband will never leave his beloved ‘mummy’ to live with you in a separate house. Everyone wants to know whats the latest with your relationship, and you will have to tell everyone what, why, when and how because, after all, they are family and you must not hide anything from them. I am sorry, I do not believe he has ever heard of it or knows the meaning of that word. You say you want to go meet that friend from college? You will not have a say in family planning; your body is his asset now.Besides that, they are in your face all the time anyway, so if you don’t tell them, they will find out! He will decide everything; starting from when you will have babies to how many you will have.In most parts of the country, except perhaps in Islamabad, Karachi, and wealthier parts of a few other cities, people consider a woman--and her family--to be shameless if no restrictions are placed on her mobility.Purdah is practiced in various ways, depending on family tradition, region, class, and rural or urban residence, but nowhere do unrelated men and women mix freely.And no, he will not cancel the , but he really doesn’t.His tolerance towards movies of the like is a toady façade of politeness, an attempt to ingratiate himself with you (for nuptial reasons) or a “please, cheer up” measure after a particularly fiery quarrel, which obviously was all your fault.The reason will probably be as simple as, ‘well that has been the tea brand in the house for years’!
Outside the home, social life generally revolves around the activities of men.
The following piece is the result of an opinionated writer’s bias.
Though the writer herself remains miserably devoid of any male attention, she likes to learn through other people’s experiences.
She is the idolised queen of the domestic domain, ‘lovingly’ referred to as Ammi jaan.
She will not allow you to change anything in the house, even though the ‘you’re just like my daughter’ line has been thrown at you; not even the brand of tea that she uses, so don’t try it!
Her piece is based on the experiences of many, many married acquaintances. The only way to achieve harmony in your relationship with him is to understand this vital fact.