She was once in love with another woman and had fond enough memories to keep a few letters and photos of the two of them; that doesn’t necessarily mean this woman was the love of her life, or the reason her marriage to your grandfather was so strained.
I think you can split the difference: If she’s lucid enough, the next time you speak to her, you can tell her you went through the attic and found a lot of old photos and letters, and ask if there is anything she would like to look through again.
She hardly eats and harangues her daughters and daughters-in-law each time they have a baby to lose the weight immediately.Now, I’m not sure if I should show her the letter and pictures, because it might make her remember her happiness when she was with that woman, or whether it would upset and embarrass her (she’s pretty buttoned-up).My mother has passed away, so I can’t ask her for advice. A: I think when a 90-year-old woman is weeks away from dying, it’s generally not a good time to ask if she wants to come out.Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. Closeted grandmother: My 90-year-old grandmother is very ill and will die in a matter of weeks.We’ve always been really close, as I’m her only granddaughter and my mother was her only daughter.Some more framed pictures of the woman were also stored (with her name on them).