His acting appeared to everyone around us that he likes me. And the worst is that I felt like he talked to me and pushing me to marry him. And Indonesian muslim guys are not like that....it's just the guy is Arab.And he always said that he chose the wrong hotels to stay (in Ubud & Kuta), coz both hotels were very expensive 5 star located in very quiet places that suits honeymooners. But in other time he told me that he's experienced to book hotels since he travels a lot. It once made me crying at myself then screaming yes I'll marry you. And Then I consulted someone, who understand about this problem. He suggested me to contact him first through email. After having contact, it seems the spell just dissapear. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. He will ask (or do it without asking) to look through your phone at any given moment. He, on the other hand, will more than likely have more mobile phones than you’re even aware of. If you’re leaving the house without him you’ll be expected to notify him verbally, by text, or a phone call. Regardless of how much fun you think the two of you are having together, he’ll choose spending time with his friends at the drop of a hat. This is the one where he’s mentioned marriage, or at least hinted at it. Don’t get excited, chances are you’re not off to meet mom anytime soon. He’s going to do anything in his power to convince you that sharing a bed is perfectly natural since you’re going to be sharing your life together in the near future. Finally, all men from all cultures are completely different. Don’t write to me telling me that I’m bashing Arab men or the culture. And please, if you have more to add, feel free to email or comment. This behavior is what keeps most of us wives from asking for very much. And knowing a person will do pretty much anything in the world to make you happy prevents us from wanting to bother them with silly things.
I wouldn't be worried about a man from all Middle Eastern countries, but that one is really something else.
Casual relationships: This is the one where you, the American woman, think you’re dating this really nice Arab guy and it feels like it’s getting serious. He says all the right things but his actions aren’t matching. He still lives with his mom and dad and he’s almost 30.
This comes from not wanting to ‘bother’ a woman with things that might upset her…
But he just said it the same way you'd say you were from Sacramento or something. Points in his favor would be if he came over here at a younger age, or if he is an atheist or from a family or area in Saudi Arabia that is less religious or more progressive, or he is is not a Sunni/Wahhabist.
He'd have to be vehemently opposed to all of that stuff to be okay with me, and even then, being raised in that society, something is going to get internalized. I wouldn't say it's completely impossible that I would consider dating a hypothetical man from Saudi Arabia, but it's probably unlikely.
I seem to get this one a lot, usually during the early stages of conversation.