While commitment phobic men have difficulties to commit themselves in a relationship, a jealous man often seems too willing to commit.
And while a commitment phobic man fears the most of the thoughts of themselves being attached to only one woman for life, a jealous man seems too eager for it.
Trouble is this amazing new man already has a woman at home. Every couple of days I get an email from another woman telling me they’re dating a married man, or a man who has a long-term girlfriend, but it’s OK because, “He’s going to leave her.” Here is your official David Wygant slap in the face…
He may even blurt out, "I've never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you." This may sound like a commitment to a future with you. Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his loving you and making a commitment to you. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like.
If you’re having sex with a married man, or sleeping with a guy that has a girlfriend, sure he has feelings for you during the sex.
Yes, he has feelings for you in the heat of the moment, but if he hasn’t left his wife, children, and home, he isn’t going to. I don’t care how many trips he takes you on, or rings that he buys you. So many women fall for the fairytale idea that somehow he’s going to leave his family behind, and ride off into the sunset with you.
You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.
This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. As appreciative as he sounds, many women who are involved with married men come to resent his having the best of both worlds, when she has the least. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? At some level, he's going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Despite his reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife in an above-board and respectful way -- and not beginning a legitimate relationship with you -- are actions that speak louder than words. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?
Some emails have come from women who have been “involved” with these men for months, sometimes even years. It doesn’t matter how good the sex he gets from you is either. You see all these words and feelings he describes to you are just as much fantasy to him as they are to you. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, but someone needs to make you women see what’s really going on in this situation.