And yet, when overweight people enter the dating scene, they're often overwhelmed by feeling unlovable and unattractive to others.
It's a feeling that naturally undermines a person's confidence — one of the qualities that experts agree is essential to attraction.
Man, they really drill in the message early with this nonsense: Maybe that’s why dating as an adult so often feels like a class we’re flunking. With rare exception, dating is considered a pain in the ass, but a necessary hurdle if you want to advance to the next romantic level.
I blamed nearly all of that on my size and used weight as a shield to deflect getting rejected."In order to have confidence, you have to accept yourself for the beautiful person you are," says Marie Denee, the plus-size fashion and style blogger who founded The Curvy Fashionista blog, which provides fashion, lifestyle, and beauty tips and tricks specifically for plus size women. "Every time (and I mean time) you catch your reflection in the mirror or a window or whatever, affirm to yourself: I am beautiful," she suggests. Try mixing things up by adding in other phrases, such as "I am sexy/gorgeous/fabulous," if you like."If you keep this practice going, not only will you believe it, but you'll exude it," says Poretsky, who teaches the "Body Love Makeover Attraction Program" course for overweight women who would like to date more and feel more attractive.On the one hand you might feel a little bad for the guy, but on the other hand you might think that he was really in love, or at least was with someone he really liked.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all.”Your Date is Tough Well, a guy that dates a plus-sized girl is usually not one of those guys.If you doubt my assessment, just read the article written in “Lots of times you see a guy, he could be normal sized or he could be overweight himself, with a woman that is a bit overweight.