I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.(On the other hand, don’t weird her out by talking about marriage on the first date.) I agree.Male leadership wasn’t the result of the Fall, but of creation (as Genesis implies and Paul makes clear in 1 Timothy 2). Clean your act up today, not "when" The lie is that once you find the right girl, all your problems will go away—you just need the right motivation, right? If Jesus isn’t motivation enough to grow in maturity and pursue godliness, then you are not ready to pursue a woman. Joshua 1:8 says, “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it.” Every man needs to realize that he will only be worth following if he follows God.Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.
There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.
I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.
Know what you’re doing and either stick with the plan or go somewhere safe, where you’re in the sight of others (particularly others who respect the need for purity).