Ray Guarendi As a family psychologist, I am often asked by parents when their children should begin dating. Let’s suppose that you’ve decided to begin dating discussions when your daughter turns 16.
They usually hasten to inform me, “All his (her) friends are dating.” My quick answer is: When they’re married, and only with their spouse. Now back in the old days — the early 1980s — you met resistance for such a decision mainly from the children. You can’t wrap a moral bubble around them; they have to deal with life. A recent survey suggested that if a child has a first date between the ages of 11 and 13, he or she has a 90% probability of being sexually active during senior year in high school. Key factors to consider in granting any type of dating freedom are your child’s: • moral maturity • independence of thought • history of conduct in other social settings • strength of will • social judgment • choice of friends • responsibility toward schoolwork • respect for authority.
Two Saturdays ago, the 16-year-old daughter of a school proprietor, Mrs.
Nothing at all is to be gained from premature, opposite-sex involvement through dating, or for that matter, through the phone, dances, parties, or games kids love.She now relates more with her father instead of with me,” the mother of three said, adding that she took the drastic action to protect her teenage daughter.“I would probably allow her go on a date when she turns 18 or 19. I don’t even know why she is desperate to go on a date; she should be thinking about her academics,” she said. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 18 because I had very strict parents. My 12 year old daughter has asked me when she can start dating.Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.